Fatty Hearst

"But the drive to repeat familiar patterns of feelings is common to all people, no matter how painful or self-defeating those feelings may be. The familiar provides a sense of comfort and structure for our lives. We know what the rules are, and we know what to expect. More important, we reenact past conflicts because this time we hope to make it come out right—we’re going to win the battle. This reenactment of old, painful experiences is called a “repetition compulsion.”"

- Toxic Parents by Susan Forward. (via selfcareafterrape)

Aug 20